Don’t Be A Copycat
Nobody likes a copycat. You get no points for your unoriginality. And the only thing worse than being rejected for who you are is being accepted for who aren’t.
You would think being authentic would be easy. After all, the only person you’ve ever been your whole life is you! And I’ve only been me, but if we’re honest sometimes we need to find ourselves and do an authenticity check.
Where the Problem Lies
One of my favorite quotes says “success leaves clues.” And its true. Those of us who have done what we’ve done have left clues behind them and if we follow those clues, we too can be successful. But the problem is when we become duplicators instead of innovators. The success clues left for us are meant to inspire, not meant for us to simply copy in hopes that somehow the world will reward us for being lazy.
How Do We Live Authentic Lives?
1. Be honest with yourself
Being authentic with the world is first about being authentic with yourself. It can be easy to lie to ourselves about what we want or don’t want. The world can give us their suggestions about the decisions we should be making, but at the end of the day we have to be honest.
2. Be comfortable with discomfort
Being honest sometimes brings along conflict. In some situations, conflict with those who are closest to us. What happens when being authentic rubs someone the wrong way? You decide on a career path that your loved ones don’t agree with or to pursue a dream they don’t support? It brings discomfort. But that’s ok because you have the ability to be comfortable in the midst of discomfort. Stand your ground and continue to love in the midst of challenging times. Keep your joy and don’t fold.
3. Don’t let anyone quiet your self expression
I love the quote that says “well-behave women seldom make history.” I think this thought stretches to men and women because sometimes we need to be rebels in our to live out our true authentic lives. Don’t let anyone tell you your hopes can never come true, your dreams are too big, or your expressions are unacceptable. Don’t allow yourself to be quieted by those driven by fear. Your voice matters and it should be heard.
4. Keep searching until you find it
The search for an authentic life is a marathon, not a sprint. As we learn more an evolve, we become more complex and need to reevaluate what matters most to us. Don’t get weary on your search for authenticity. Keep trying things until you find what works. It may mean enrolling into multiple programs, dying your hair 10 times, or living in different parts of the world. The silver lining is that once you find it, you’ll have it and never lose it.
We All Want Success
There isn’t a person on earth who doesn’t want to achieve great things in life. Everywhere around the world people want to enjoy the highest levels of success. Just ask around and people will tell you they want more success in their lives, would enjoy more money, healthier relationships, healthier and stronger bodies, high functioning businesses and organizations. But all the want in the world doesn’t translate into results!
What Makes Us Great
What’s the difference between the people that set goals and year after year never become successful and the people that set goals and achieve massive success? It’s not education or IQ, it’s not socioeconomic status, not network…not any of those factors. There’s only one difference between the mediocre and the super successful. Its called GRIT. What is grit? Its perseverance and passion for your goals over an extended time period. Grit doesn’t allow you to quit or get discouraged. Grit trumps where you’ve come from, what you have, and what you know. Grit is the success gene. so how we get it and develop it
How To Get More Grit
Decide To Be A Winner
Before you make a decision to begin any task, you must decide that you are going to win. Some people give their best effort and will be surprised if they succeed. Some even hope they will succeed. But, a small percentage of people decide they’re going to persevere and win at the tasks they begin.
If it means enough for you to start, make sure if means enough for you to win.
All Mindsets Aren’t Created Equal
What you believe about your ability to grow determines your future. To realize your full potential, you need to operate with the right mindset that allows you to push past obstacles and become your best.There are only two types of mindsets that exist in the world-Fixed Mindsets and Growth Mindsets. Continue reading “Having A Growth Mindset”
Don’t Take This Opportunity For Granted
What if I told you the opportunity that you have right now is the last opportunity you’ll ever get to make your dreams come true? How would you respond to life if you knew you’d never have another opportunity like the one that before you right now?
This is the type of posture we must take to life if we are to seize opportunities as they present themselves. On our path to greatness, we can’t afford to procrastinate and take opportunities for granted. Every opportunity of forward progression must be taken as if opportunity will never present itself again. Continue reading “Seizing Opportunity”
Staying focused is a skill that if honed and matured will yield some amazing dividends in our lives. But really, staying focused isn’t the problem. It’s not that we have a lack of focus. At any given point, we’re all focused on something. If we’re watching tv, we’re focused on that, or being social with friends, at that point in time that’s the activity we’re focused on.
Why It’s Important
The skill of staying focused comes into play when we have to consciously decide what’s most important in our lives, get focused on those things and stay focused on them for an extended period of time to bring about some real results in our lives. Continue reading “How to Stay Focused on What Matters”
The Reality of Our Resolutions
The new year brings about new vigor. We make audacious goals to quit bad habits and create good ones. We’re excited. We are encouraging and even give encouragement to others. It’s almost like we’re new people. But sadly for so many of us, we experience a decline in that momentum. We aren’t running as fast as we were toward the goal. The goal we set before now seems bigger and almost impossible to accomplish and we begin to experience discouragement. Slowly but surely, the resolution transitions from an I must do to, I should do, to I might do, to its a good idea if I did do…
Hope To Keep Going
But this doesn’t have to be the sustaining reality. If we mustered the courage and momentum to create the goal and pursue it, even if only for a few weeks, we’ve already proven to ourselves that we have what it takes to keep going.
So how do we keep the momentum going and pursue the resolution that meant so much to us just a little while ago?
Tools to Achieve Your Resolutions
- Chunk Your Year’s Goal Into Smaller Weekly Goals
Don’t overwhelm yourself. Make it easier by picking smaller goals to focus on to build a momentum and a track record of success. As you make progress, don’t be afraid to change your weekly expectations if you set the bar too high or too low. Forward movement is the key.
2. Track Your Progress
Keep a log of your progress so you can reflect over time and enjoy the small successes. You’ll begin to see improvement and that will combat the self doubt and criticism that may come in the future. Be kind to yourself and remember this is a journey.
3. Remember Why Your Resolution is Important
On a daily basis, remind yourself what’s to be gained by attaining the goal. Don’t just focus on the activity, but focus on the feeling you’ll have when you attain victory in your pursuit.
Having a vision is like the universe coming to your front door step handing you a blank check saying hey this is your check, write down whatever you want to . Now for many of us being handed a blank check would literally be the best moment of our entire lives. No more restrictions, no more lack of resources. We get to write our own ticket to life. But if you were to receive a blank check right now, what you know exactly what you would write down on it? My inclination is that probably not. Of course, you’d say, “I’d write something big.” Some large amount. But in exact terms, do you know what you would write.
The truth of the matter is that every morning when we wake up, life hands us a blank check. Life is telling us you can have whatever you want. There are no restrictions or boundaries. But the only caveat is that life doesn’t tell us when we need to write the amount on the check. So many of us go through our daily lives meandering holding blank checks in our hands that are unfilled out. And we only have these blank check in our hands because life isn’t telling us that we need to decided right now. Continue reading “How to Create A Great Vision”